BACHELOR HOSTS
WHEN A BACHELOR entertains either in the afternoon or evening, he follows in a general way the procedure indicated for receptions under the heading “At Homes.” If the affair is to be elaborate, he may use engraved invitations.
Mr. Hartley Fane Treadwell
requests the pleasure of
.................................
company
on Wednesday afternoon, November the first
From four until seven o’clock
Nine East Third Street
A word or two at the bottom on the left may indicate any special entertainment, such as Music.
But there are certain proprieties to be observed that are peculiar to the bachelor. For example, he is not permitted to use a visiting-card with a line written on it for less formal invitations. Instead, he must write a note in the first person, or he may give the invitation orally. The invitations should be issued a week or a little less before the appointed time.
There is one other requirement of vital importance. The bachelor must always have a chaperon present for any gathering that includes both sexes. And she must be invited by note, or orally—even in cases where the formal engraved invitations are employed.
The chaperon pours tea, and on occasions when the guests are seated at table, she is given the place on the host’s right, unless there is a guest of honor, when she is given the position on his left.
The other women guests must take their departure at the same time as the chaperon, unless they prefer an earlier hour.
The presence of the chaperon at such entertainments makes it unnecessary for the unmarried girl to provide one for herself.
The chaperon should be a married woman, and her husband must be included among the invited guests.
When a bachelor wishes to issue engraved invitations for a formal dinner-party or luncheon, he uses the forms provided respectively in the chapters entitled “Dinners” and “Luncheons.” The directions as to breakfasts also will be found appropriate in a general way as set forth in the special chapter.
A bachelor should always be punctilious in calling on a chaperon shortly after any affair at which she has officiated, in order to tender his grateful appreciation of her services in his behalf.