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In Defense of Women

Chapter 20: 16. A Conspiracy of Silence
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The author presents a series of essays that examine female nature, the dynamics between sexes, marriage, suffrage, and changing moral values. He blends social observation, biological speculation, and cultural satire to question contemporary ideas about women's intelligence, emotions, domestic roles, and political rights, dissecting courtship, marital institutions, and the effects of emancipation. Chapters survey alleged instincts, myths, and hypocrisies surrounding honor, piety, and aesthetics, and consider how war and cultural shifts might reshape gender relations. The tone alternates between critical polemic and ironic commentary, inviting debate about assumptions that underlie sexual politics and the future of intimate and civic arrangements.

16. A Conspiracy of Silence

The reason why all this has to be stated here is simply that women, who could state it much better, have almost unanimously refrained from discussing such matters at all. One finds, indeed, a sort of general conspiracy, infinitely alert and jealous, against the publication of the esoteric wisdom of the sex, and even against the acknowledgment that any such body of erudition exists at all. Men, having more vanity and less discretion, area good deal less cautious. There is, in fact, a whole literature of masculine babbling, ranging from Machiavelli’s appalling confession of political theory to the egoistic confidences of such men as Nietzsche, Jean-Jacques Rousseau, Casanova, Max Stirner, Benvenuto Cellini, Napoleon Bonaparte and Lord Chesterfield. But it is very rarely that a Marie Bashkirtsev or Margot Asquith lets down the veils which conceal the acroamatic doctrine of the other sex. It is transmitted from mother to daughter, so to speak, behind the door. One observes its practical workings, but hears little about its principles. The causes of this secrecy are obvious. Women, in the last analysis, can prevail against men in the great struggle for power and security only by keeping them disarmed, and, in the main, unwarned. In a pitched battle, with the devil taking the hindmost, their physical and economic inferiority would inevitably bring them to disaster. Thus they have to apply their peculiar talents warily, and with due regard to the danger of arousing the foe. He must be attached without any formal challenge, and even without any suspicion of challenge. This strategy lies at the heart of what Nietzsche called the slave morality—in brief, a morality based upon a concealment of egoistic purpose, a code of ethics having for its foremost character a bold denial of its actual aim.