INDEX
- Abbreviations, 3, 4
- Accepting invitations, 183
- Accounts, keeping, 391
- Acknowledging favors, 410, 411
- Acknowledging gifts, 169, 170, 173, 174
- Acquaintance between young men and young women, 132
- Addressing invitations, 1, 4, 6, 7, 8, 9
- Addressing letters, 31
- Addressing persons of political prominence, 34, 35
- Addressing the nobility, 41
- Afternoon receptions, 53, 54
- Afternoon receptions, correct dress, 54
- Afternoon receptions, refreshments for, 54
- After six o’clock, 43
- Allowances: children’s weekly sums, 395
- Allowances, expenditure of, 396, 397, 398
- Allowances for charity, 347
- Allowances, importance of, 395
- Allowances, value of, 396
- Anniversaries, 63
- Announcements, wedding, 86, 87
- Answering letters, 29, 36, 37
- Arrival at functions, 56, 57
- Asking questions, 401, 402
- “At Home” announcement through newspapers, 4
- “At Home” days, 17, 18
- “At Homes,” invitations to, 2
- “At Homes” of brides, 89
- Attendants, wedding, 70, 79
- Automobiling, etiquette of, 285, 286
- Bachelor after-theater supper, 176
- Bachelor dinners, 179, 180, 181
- Bachelor hospitality: chaperon required, 176
- Bachelor hospitality: engaging chaperon for, 177
- Bachelor hospitality: form of entertaining, 176
- Bachelor hospitality: issuing invitations, 178
- Bachelor receptions, 176, 179
- Bachelor restaurant supper, 180, 181
- Bachelor tea, 176, 178
- Bashfulness, 412
- Birthday gifts, 171
- Boarding-house, etiquette of, 249
- Boarding-schools, 113
- Boating, etiquette of, 288, 289
- Books, care of, 235
- Books, borrowing, 235
- Bouquets, bridal, 73, 82, 84
- Bowing, 240
- Box-party, correct seating of, 129
- Breakfast, wedding, 71, 72, 75, 76, 84, 85
- Bridegroom’s dress, 72, 82
- Bride’s dress, 72, 82
- Bridesmaid’s dress, 72, 82
- Bruskness, 399
- Business courtesy, 401
- Butler’s dress, 102
- Call, who makes first, 25, 26
- Callers, refreshments for, 19, 20
- Calling after a bereavement, 22
- Calling-cards, 4
- Calls, 14
- Calls: after an invitation has been declined, 24
- Calls: “At Home” days, 17, 18
- Calls: conversation during, 127
- Calls: hours for, 26, 125, 126
- Calls: length of, 126
- Calls: leaving cards, 18, 19, 20
- Calls: on fiancée, 21
- Calls, on the sick, 26
- Calls, returning, 23
- Calls, social obligation of, 17
- Calls to offer sympathy, 23
- Canoeing, etiquette of, 288, 289
- Card-party, the, 56, 57
- Cards, 14
- Cards, calling, 14
- Cards, correspondence, 35
- Cards for an “At Home,” 2
- Cards for clergymen, 16
- Cards for evening reception, 3
- Cards for home wedding, 69, 70
- Cards for matron, 15
- Cards for men, 15
- Cards for mourning, 21, 22
- Cards for wedding anniversaries, 62
- Cards for young women, 15
- Cards: style for calling, 14
- Cards: when calling, 19, 20
- Ceremony, wedding, 74, 75, 80
- Chaperon, 145
- Chaperon at college parties, 142
- Chaperon at theaters, 150
- Chaperon, duties of, 147, 148, 149, 150, 177
- Chaperon, excursions with, 150
- Chaperon, necessity of, 146, 147
- Chaperon, obligation to, 147
- Chaperon: when traveling, 278, 279
- Charity, allowance for, 347
- Charity: delicacy in gift-making, 353, 354
- Charity, organized methods of, 347, 348, 349
- Charity, private, 352, 353
- Charity: settlement work, 351, 352
- Charity: special fields of, 350, 351
- Children, 315
- Children at hotels, 254, 255
- Children, authority over, 319
- Children, behavior of, 318
- Children, indulgence to, 316, 317
- Children, obedience of, 322
- Children, place of, 318
- Children, traveling with, 320, 321
- Christening gifts, 64, 178
- Christening parties, 63, 64
- Christmas gifts, 172, 173
- Church acquaintances, 330
- Church companionship, 330, 331
- Church etiquette, 329
- Church etiquette: making friends, 331
- Church etiquette: pastor and parish, 335
- Church etiquette: pew hospitality, 333
- Church etiquette: visiting congregations, 335
- Church etiquette: welcoming strangers, 331, 332
- Clerks and customers, 408
- Clerks: courtesy toward, 407
- Club, woman’s, 337
- Coeducation, 136
- Coeducation: “Don’ts” for girls, 140, 141, 142
- Coeducation: forming friendships, 138, 139
- Coeducation: local etiquette of, 139
- Coeducation: social amenities of, 137, 138
- College festivities, 142
- College slang, 141, 142
- Coming out, 120
- Coming-out parties, 55, 56
- Companionship of one young man, 130, 131
- Compliments, profuse, 417
- Condolence, 34, 208, 209
- Conduct toward guest, 199, 200, 201, 202
- Congratulations, 34
- Congratulations, wedding, 75, 83, 84
- Correspondence cards, 35
- Correspondence, value of, 29
- Courtesy, 355
- Courtesy: aged men, 360, 361, 362
- Courtesy due elders, 355
- Courtesy: value of deference, 357, 358, 360
- Courtesy: value of discrimination, 356, 357
- Courtesies: at dance, 128
- Courtesies: at theater, 129
- Courtesies, young men may pay girls, 128
- Criticism, rudeness of, 409
- Criticism, tactful, 403, 404
- Dance program, 58
- Dancing parties, 57, 58
- Dancing parties: the hostess, 59
- Dean of women, 143, 144
- Débutante, 120
- Débutante, age of, 121
- Débutante, apparel of, 122, 123
- Débutante: coming out, 120
- Débutante, conduct of, 123, 124
- Débutante, significance of, 121, 122
- Declining invitations, 8, 9, 10, 11
- Dinner coat, 104, 105
- Dinner, hour for serving, 99
- Dinner parties, 88
- Dinner parties: arrival, 107
- Dinner parties: choice of guests, 89, 90, 106
- Dinner parties: departure, 109
- Dinner parties, invitations to, 6, 7, 8, 9, 90
- Dinner parties: general suggestions, 89
- Dinner parties: leaving dining-room, 108
- Dinner parties: leaving drawing-room, 106
- Dinner parties: preparations for, 91, 92, 93, 94, 95, 96
- Dinner parties: serving, 100, 101
- Dinner parties: the small affair, 89
- Disagreeableness, 400
- Dowry, bride’s, 394
- Dress: between seasons, 156
- Dress, color in, 161, 162, 163
- Dress, consideration of, 154
- Dress for balls and dinners, 156
- Dress for bride, 72, 82
- Dress for bridegroom, 72, 82
- Dress for bridesmaids, 72, 82
- Dress for business woman, 383, 384
- Dress for butler, 102
- Dress for christening parties, 64, 105
- Dress for church, 166
- Dress for house-man, 102
- Dress for housework, 372, 373
- Dress for maid, 102
- Dress for maid of honor, 72, 82
- Dress for men at dinner party, 103
- Dress for traveling, 270
- Dress for ushers, 83
- Dress for various occasions, 54-157
- Dress for widow, 212
- Dress for widow at second marriage, 187
- Dress for women at dinner party, 103, 156
- Dress: individuality in, 162
- Dress: importance of accessories, 159, 160
- Dress: its influence on manner, 253
- Dress: neatness in, 162, 163
- Dress: street gown, 155
- Dress: suitable for occasion, 158, 163, 164
- Duty of hospitality, 203
- Duty of maid, 99, 363
- Duty of mistress, 363
- Duty to elders, 355
- Education of young girl, 111
- Embracing, 244
- Engaged couple, 60, 61
- Engagements, 61
- Engagements, announcement of, 61
- Engagement gifts, 170
- Entertaining at club-house, 65
- Entertaining at hotel ballroom, 65
- Escorting women, 242, 243
- Evening receptions, 53
- Exchanging photographs at college, 141
- Expenses, wedding, 71
- Finances: accounts, 391
- Finances: advantages of agreement, 390, 391
- Finances: advice to wife, 388, 389
- Finances: allowance for wife, 389, 390
- Finances: exceeding allowance, 390
- Finances: investing wife’s money, 394
- Finances: marrying for money, 392, 393
- Finances of young married couples, 387
- Finances: wife earns allowance, 387, 388
- Finger-bowls, use of, 222
- Finger nails, 164, 231
- First names, use of, 127, 140
- Flowers for funerals, 209
- Forks, use of, 217, 218
- Forms of address, 34, 35, 41
- Functions, 52
- Functions: afternoon receptions, 53, 54
- Functions: anniversaries, 62, 63
- Functions: announcing engagements, 61, 62
- Functions: christening parties, 63, 64
- Functions: coming-out parties, 55, 56
- Functions: dancing parties, 57, 58
- Functions: dinner parties, 88
- Functions: evening receptions, 53
- Functions: high tea, 54, 55
- Functions: hour for arriving, 56, 57
- Functions: how to conduct one’s self, 52, 58, 59, 65
- Functions: leaving, 53, 55, 56, 57
- Functions: luncheons, 52
- Functions: music, 55
- Functions: musicale, 57, 66
- Funerals, 210, 211, 212
- Gifts, 167
- Gifts, acknowledging, 169, 170, 173, 174
- Gifts, appropriate, 168
- Gifts, birthday, 171
- Gifts, christening, 171, 172
- Gifts, Christmas, 172, 173
- Gifts, display of wedding, 84, 170
- Gifts for the baby, 171
- Gifts for engagements, 170
- Gifts for weddings, 167, 168
- Gifts for young women, 171
- Gifts, lists of, 170
- Gifts: marking silver, 168
- Girls: advantages of travel for, 116, 117
- Girls: boarding-school or college for, 112
- Girls: desirability of accomplishments for, 117, 118
- Girls: entertaining men in their room, 312, 313
- Girls: free and easy behavior, 307
- Girls, 306
- Girls: impropriety of advances, 310, 311
- Girls: jesting, 313, 314
- Girls: losing respect, 307
- Girls: maidenly dignity, 312
- Girls: permitting liberties, 308, 309, 310
- Girls: plain talk to, 306
- Girls: sending away to school, 111
- Gloves, 165
- Golf, etiquette of, 282, 283, 284
- Grace, saying, 100
- Greetings, 414
- Guests at hotels, 249
- Guests, choice of, 10
- Harmony, 421
- Hat, lifting of, 238, 239, 411
- High tea, 54, 55
- Home dinner, 45
- Home diversion: planning for, 44, 45, 46
- Home diversion: games for, 47
- Home, in the, 227
- Home, in the: breaches of manner, 237, 238
- Home, in the: courtesy, 227, 228, 229
- Home, in the: courteous attentions, 229, 233
- Home, in the: family table, 229, 230
- Home, in the: good taste in speech, 231, 232
- Home, in the: politeness essential, 232, 233
- Home, in the: recognizing others’ rights, 235, 236
- Home, in the: respect for books, 235
- Home, in the: respect necessary, 233, 234
- Home, in the: well-trained voice, 234
- Home party, 47
- Home wedding, 69
- Home wedding: decorations, 73, 74
- Home wedding: invitations to, 69, 70
- Home wedding: matter of lights, 70
- Home wedding: order of procession, 74, 75
- Horseback riding, etiquette of, 289, 290
- Hospitality, 201, 202, 203
- Hospitality, bachelor, 175
- Hospitality, duty of, 203
- Hospitality, mutual obligations of, 204
- Hospitality, return of, 205
- Hospitality to strangers, 206, 207
- Hostess at dance, 59
- Hostess at table, 217, 223
- Hotel, children in, 254, 255
- Hotel etiquette, 249
- Hotel etiquette: conduct toward waiter, 252
- Hotel etiquette: criticizing, 252
- Hotel etiquette: dining-room conduct, 251, 252
- Hotel etiquette: instructions for guest, 249, 250
- Hotel etiquette: loud talking, 250
- Hotel etiquette: tipping, 253
- Hotel gossip, 255, 256
- Hotel intimacies, 257
- Hotel, summer, 257
- Hotel table, at the, 416
- House-man, dress of, 102
- House-man, duties of, 103
- Ideal society, the, 67
- Indulgent parents, 316, 317
- Ingratitude, display of, 409
- Interest, display of, 402, 403
- Introductions, 38
- Introductions: an American presented at court, 40, 41
- Introductions: clerical, 40
- Introductions: man the one presented, 38
- Introductions: should be made by host, 41, 42
- Introducing a person in a large circle, 39
- Introducing a sister or daughter, 39
- Introducing one’s husband, 39
- Introducing professional men, 42
- Introducing two women of about equal age, 40
- Invitations, 1
- Invitations, acknowledging, 1, 4, 6, 7, 8, 9
- Invitations, addressing, 6
- Invitations, appreciation of, 409
- Invitations, bachelor’s, 178
- Invitations, declining, 8, 9, 10
- Invitations for an “At Home,” 2
- Invitations for bridge, 11
- Invitations for card-parties, 5
- Invitations for coming-out parties, 56
- Invitations for church weddings, 5
- Invitations for dances, 5
- Invitations for dinners, 6, 7, 8, 9
- Invitations for evening receptions, 3
- Invitations for garden parties, 11
- Invitations for luncheons, 6, 10
- Invitations for musicales, 11
- Invitations for tea-dance, 11
- Invitations for weddings, 5, 69, 70, 78
- Invitations in honor of friend, 2
- Invitations: issued in name of, 13
- Invitations: manner of receiving verbal, 409, 410
- Invitations requiring no acceptance note, 1
- Invitations: sent after a death, 12
- Invitations: without first call having been made, 23, 24
- Inviting a visitor, 197-198
- Jesting, 313, 314
- Leave-taking, a man’s, 135
- Leaving cards, 20, 21
- Letter-heads, 30
- Letter-writing, 27
- Letters, answering, 29, 36, 37
- Letters: colored letter paper, 29
- Letters, dating, 31
- Letters: enclosing stamps, 36
- Letters, how to write, 27
- Letters: interchange of, 130
- Letters, length of, 33
- Letters: mourning stationery, 30
- Letters of condolence, 34, 208, 209
- Letters of congratulation, 34
- Letters of introduction, 35, 36, 416
- Letters: plain white paper, 29
- Letters: postal cards, 33
- Letters: signatures, 32
- Letters: social forms, 29, 30
- Letters: wrong way of treating, 28
- Listening, value of, 402, 403
- Little things, 399
- Lunching at a club, 134
- Luncheons, 52
- Luncheons: the table, 52
- Maid, dress of, 102
- Maid, duties of, 99
- Maid of honor, 70
- Maid of honor’s dress, 72, 82
- Maid, without a: division of tasks, 376, 377
- Maid, without a: dressing for work, 372, 373
- Maid, without a: importance of order, 373, 374, 375
- Maid, without a: simplicity, 375, 376
- Maid, without a: studying housework, 377, 378, 379
- Maidenly dignity, 312
- Manner, 418
- Manner: beginning conversation, 425
- Manner: candles of conversation, 422
- Manner: harmony, 421
- Manner: learn to talk well, 419
- Manner: leaving a room, 425
- Manner: serenity, 423, 424
- Manner: telling a story, 423
- Manner: the question form, 420
- Manner: violent opinions, 424
- Manner of lady toward social inferior, 416
- Marketing: ill manners while, 408
- Marriage, ceremonies of, 74, 75, 80, 81
- Marrying for money, 393
- Menu cards, 97, 261, 262, 263, 264, 265, 266, 267
- Mistress and maid, 363
- Mistress and maid: duty to maid, 356, 366
- Mistress and maid: duty to mistress, 366
- Mistress and maid: making confidante of maid, 366, 367
- Mistress and maid: making friend of maid, 365, 366
- Mistress and maid: relations between, 363, 368
- Mistress, conduct of, 363, 364
- Mourning: attending funerals, 209, 210
- Mourning: cards of, 21
- Mourning: church funerals, 212
- Mourning: closing casket, 210
- Mourning: conduct of bereaved, 215
- Mourning: extending sympathy, 211, 212
- Mourning: flowers, 209
- Mourning for men, 214
- Mourning: funeral notices, 215
- Mourning: home funerals, 210, 211
- Mourning, house of, 208
- Mourning stationery, appropriate, 21, 22
- Mourning, time of, 214, 215
- Mourning veil, 212, 213
- Mourning: widow’s dress, 212, 213, 214
- Mrs. Newlyrich, ambitions of, 294, 295
- Mrs. Newlyrich, apparel of, 303
- Mrs. Newlyrich: conduct toward servants, 297
- Mrs. Newlyrich: engaging servants, 296
- Mrs. Newlyrich: forming new acquaintances, 299
- Mrs. Newlyrich, house of, 303, 304
- Mrs. Newlyrich, husband of, 292, 293, 294
- Mrs. Newlyrich, manners of, 298, 299
- Mrs. Newlyrich: mastering forms, 300, 301, 302
- Mrs. Newlyrich: purse-pride, 294
- Mrs. Newlyrich, speech of, 296
- Mrs. Newlyrich, social duties of, 291
- Music at a reception, 55
- Musicale, 57, 66
- Music, wedding, 74
- Napkin, use of, 217, 222, 224
- Neighbors, 323
- Neighbors, addressing, 324
- Neighbors, courtesy to, 325
- Neighbors, familiarity with, 327, 328
- Neighbors, higher significance of, 326, 327
- Note-writing, as an accomplishment, 130
- Notices, funeral, 215
- Obedience, children’s, 322
- Observation, value of, 427, 428
- Paper, letter, 29, 35
- Parents, indulgent, 316, 317
- Parish, etiquette of, 329
- Party calls, 23
- Parties, anniversary, 63
- Parties, christening, 63, 64
- Parties, coming-out, 55, 56
- Parties, dancing, 57, 58
- Parties, dinner, 88
- Parties, gentlemen should attend on ladies, 133, 134
- Parties, house, 187
- Pastor and parish, 334, 335, 336
- Perfect social group, 68
- Photographs, exchange of, 141
- Politeness in home, 232, 238
- Postal cards, use of, 32, 33
- Presentation at court, 40-41
- Privacy, respect for others’, 235, 236
- Public, addressing women in, 243, 245
- Public, assisting women in, 242
- Public, boarding a car in, 240, 241
- Public, bowing in, 240
- Public, embracing in, 244
- Public, escorting women in, 242, 243
- Public, etiquette in, 240, 241
- Public, kissing in, 244
- Public, lifting hat in, 238, 239
- Public, removing hat in, 239
- Public, resigning seat in, 241, 242
- Public: theater conduct, 245, 246
- Purse-pride, 294
- Receiving a caller, 126
- Receptions, afternoon, 53, 54
- Receptions, evening, 53
- Receptions, invitations for, 3
- Recreation, 43
- Refreshments for callers, 19, 20
- Refreshments for home wedding, 64
- Refreshments for receptions, 64
- Restaurant, in the, 259
- Restaurant, in the: conduct, 259, 260, 261
- Restaurant, in the: menu card, 261, 262, 263, 264, 265, 266, 267
- Restaurant, in the: ordering, 259, 260
- Returning calls, 23
- Rowing, etiquette of, 288, 289
- Rudeness, 399
- Rules of social life, 426
- Self-criticism, 412
- Self-help, 426
- Serving guests, 101, 102
- Settlements, 392
- Settlement work, 351
- Social favors, asking, 416
- Spoon, use of, 220
- Sports, etiquette in, 280
- Sports, etiquette in: automobiling, 285, 286
- Sports, etiquette in: boating, 288, 289
- Sports, etiquette in: canoeing, 288, 289
- Sports, etiquette in: driving, 289
- Sports, etiquette in: golf, 282, 283, 284
- Sports, etiquette in: horseback riding, 289, 290
- Sports, etiquette in: politeness necessary, 280
- Sports, etiquette in: rowing, 288, 289
- Sports, etiquette in: swimming, 289
- Sports, etiquette in: tennis, 286, 287
- Sports, etiquette in: yachting, 287
- Sports, general rules of, 281, 282
- Street-car, getting off, 415
- Summer hotel, etiquette of, 257
- Suppers, Sunday night, 49, 50
- Suppers, after the theater, 176
- Swimming, etiquette of, 289
- Sympathy, cards of, 22
- Sympathy, expressions of, 211, 212
- Table, at, 216
- Table, at: carving, 217
- Table, at: drinking coffee, 221, 222
- Table, at: eating, 216, 220
- Table, at: salad, 222
- Table, at: second service, 224
- Table, at: the hostess, 217, 223
- Table, at: the waitress, 222
- Table, at: use of finger-bowls, 222
- Table, at: use of fork, 217, 218
- Table, at: use of knife, 217, 218, 219
- Table, at: use of spoon, 220
- Table, at: using fingers, 220, 221
- Table: fruit centerpiece for, 97
- Table laws, 225, 226
- Table, setting the, 93, 94, 95, 98, 225
- Table, sitting at, 216
- Telephoning, politeness of, 404, 405, 406
- Tennis, etiquette of, 286, 287
- Tipping, 188, 253
- Titles, 17, 42
- Titles: husband’s never taken by wife, 16
- Traveling: arrival in a strange city, 276, 277, 278
- Traveling: by boat, 278
- Traveling: chaperons, 278, 279
- Traveling: funds, 270, 271
- Traveling: in the dining-car, 275, 276
- Traveling, making acquaintance while, 271, 272
- Traveling: Pullman car preparations, 272, 273, 274
- Traveling, suitable clothing for, 270
- Uniformity of custom, 429
- Uninvited visitor, 12, 183
- Use of first names, 127, 245
- Ushers, wedding, 74, 79
- Ushers, dress for, 83
- Value of allowances, 396
- Visited, the, 195
- Visited, the: conduct toward guest, 199, 200, 201, 202
- Visited, the: decline of hospitality, 195, 196, 197
- Visited, the: inviting a visitor, 197, 198
- Visited, the: preparing for visitor, 198, 199
- Visited, the: welcoming visitor, 199
- Visitor, the, 182
- Visitor, the: accepting invitations, 183, 184
- Visitor, the: assisting hostess, 186
- Visitor, the: examples of misbehavior, 190, 191, 192
- Visitor, the: expenses of, 200, 201
- Visitor, the: house-parties, 187
- Visitor, the: keeping engagements, 184
- Visitor, the: meal time, 184, 185
- Visitor, the: promptness essential, 185
- Visitor, the: proper mode of conduct, 193, 194
- Visitor, the: thanking hostess, 188, 189
- Visitor, the: tipping servants, 188
- Visitor, the: what to avoid, 190
- Visitor, uninvited, 183
- Visitor, wardrobe of, 182, 187
- Voice, speaking quality of, 234
- Waitress, 222
- Weddings, 69, 70, 78
- Wedding anniversaries, 62, 63
- Wedding announcements, 86, 87
- Wedding apparel, appropriate, 72, 82, 83
- Wedding at home, 69, 70
- Wedding attendants, 70, 79
- Wedding-breakfasts, 71, 72, 75, 76, 84, 85
- Wedding calls, 85
- Wedding-cards, 70
- Wedding ceremony, 74, 75, 80, 81
- Wedding, church, 78
- Wedding decorations, 73, 78, 79
- Wedding, evening, 83
- Wedding expenses, how divided, 71
- Wedding invitations, form of, 69, 70, 78
- Wedding jokes, impropriety of, 77
- Wedding music, 74
- Wedding procession, order of, 74, 75, 80
- Wedding ushers, 74, 79
- Weddings: “At Home” days, 89
- Weddings: expressing congratulations, 75, 83, 84
- Weddings: days for, 70
- Weddings: maid of honor, 70
- Week-end party, 187
- Wines, serving of, 98
- Women’s clubs, broadening influence of, 337, 338, 339
- Women’s clubs, candidates for membership in, 343, 344
- Women’s clubs, discussion in, 342, 343
- Women’s clubs, formation of, 339, 340
- Women’s clubs, making the program of, 340, 341, 342
- Women’s clubs: reception of new members, 344
- Women’s clubs, social functions of, 345, 346
- Women’s colleges, 114, 115
- Women in business, 380
- Women in business: after working hours, 385, 386
- Women in business, broadened life of, 384, 385
- Women in business: conduct during working hours, 382
- Women in business, proper dress for, 383, 384
- Women in business, social position of, 381
- Yachting, etiquette of, 287
- Yachting: the guest, 288
- Yachting: the host, 287
- Young women, and young men, 125
- Young women: calling on, 126
- Young women, introductions to, 138
- Young women: invitations from men, 125
- Young women, proposing for, 131, 132